And then you realize that, because of the man you voted for sticking up for the basic right to affordable health care, today millions of other people found out that they are going to be able to stop making the choice between food and medicine, and will get to experience that relief too. Thank you, President Obama.
1. It’s okay to talk to people in bars
I genuinely don’t go to bars to hook up with folks; I go because I like to make conversation with new folks. The only issue with this is that, other than bringing my friend who’s hotter than I am, I have no idea how folks actually start conversations in bars. I mean, I recall a few instances where people started talking to me, but the only thing I can remember is that the beginning of the conversation was about something really inconsequential, like my tattoo or my scarf or the Golden Globes.
As far as that goes, I probably will not notice anyone’s scarf in a bar, and it’s extremely unlikely that I’m actually paying attention to what they’re playing on the TV. So far too many of my solo evenings out have ended after one silent drink.
2. How to cook
If anyone ever asks, I usually tell them that the only things I want out of life are a yard, a dog and a husband I can cook for. Which is why it’s ridiculous how little I can actually cook. Don’t get me wrong; I feed myself. But unless I happen to find the only other gay man in the world who has no problem with eating turkey sandwiches and scrambled eggs every day, I don’t see this getting me very far.
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In relationships, we get hung up on a lot of stuff that doesn’t matter too much, like whether or not they know who our favorite obscure indie director is or their weird chest hair pattern. People break up every day for all kinds of ridiculous reasons, because they think those reasons are important. They are convinced that this tiny thing is a huge dealbreaker. How can they NOT know who Whit Stillman is? I mean, Jesus. So, instead of sweating the small stuff, I (with counsel from my Facebook friends) came up with a list of things that really do matter. Next time, sweat the big stuff…
Bornstein explores those truths in the new book, A Queer and Pleasant Danger. It opens with the story of Jewish boy growing up in New Jersey. That same person becomes a lieutenant on the Church of Scientology’s sea flagship vessel, and 12 years later physically transitions to a woman. Bornstein is then excommunicated from the church and begins writing and performing as a gender outlaw, bucking the gender binary. And all that without even mentioning all the juicy stuff in between.
1. Don’t compare yourself to others. You are totally unique, and have different talents, abilities and strengths.
2. Never criticise or put yourself down. There are plenty of others who will do that for you. You need to be your biggest, and you greatest,…
Summer is hands-down my favorite season. But as you get older, you are given more responsibility during the summer and less free time. There are less swimming lessons and more life lessons. While summer cannot always mean “summer vacation” like it did in elementary school, here are some things that are sure to bring back childhood memories of the best time of year.
