“Communication, communication, communication: it’s all about communication,” my dad and I conclude in unison. This is the single most important thing that has helped me maintain all the relationships in my life. Also, I’ve found it especially important in poly relationships because, for me, these relationships have been like re-inventing the wheel.
For those of you who aren’t familiar with the term polyamory, I’ll briefly say this: its basis is in reconstructing a non-traditional way of viewing intimate relationships with multiple people. It can take on different forms, meanings and experiences for each relationship, set of relationships, or an individual. For these reasons, I feel uncomfortable giving any more than this brief introduction to the term. I find it best to think of it as reconstructing a new way of understanding relationships. If you want a more specific definition, I encourage you to do your own research, participation and come to your own interpretation.
Without further ado, here are a few tips that I’ve learned along the way for creating and maintaining good communication in poly relationships.